Tuesday, December 29, 2015

Family Christmas 2015

Annual Christmas Picture--Not bad for a hurry up and smile
This Christmas season was actually pretty stress-free and calm without too much rushing here and there and trying to do too many things at once. Since the Lehmans had been together quite often the last three months because of Dad's illness and death, we decided not to have a big get-together at Christmas, but instead when we celebrated Christmas with our individual families we would invite Mom to join us. This meant that Steve and I really did not have any family gatherings to attend because my family does not get together over Christmas and there were no other extended family get-togethers that were planned for this year. I actually really liked it. Although I enjoy seeing family, it was nice to have a relaxing holiday season. It eliminated a lot of  the busyness and stress that I usually associate with this time of the year. We also went to a Christmas Eve Service which we can't normally do because traditionally Christmas Eve is when our children come to our house to celebrate Christmas. The service was put on by our district's youth group and we were really glad we could attend.

Since Steve and I did not have any plans for December 25, we spent the afternoon at Longwood Gardens. It was beautiful and we really enjoyed spending a quiet day together. 
At Longwood Gardens
Our family got together this past Sunday. We decided to eat at Megan and Jeremy's house in their basement because sixteen people crowded into my kitchen is pretty full. It worked out really well and we had plenty of room to spare. After the meal we walked back to our house to open gifts and for the rest of the evening's activities. The only downside was that when we were ready to go to our house it was pouring down rain! Needless to say, most of us got soaked!
The table--the empty spaces belong to some children who were wandering around somewhere :)

Something is amusing on the other side of the table

Love the way Mom is laughing here!

Miss Cutie Pie!!!!

Chatting

All the children took turns blowing out the candles on Jesus's birthday cake.

What was left of the birthday cake.

Reading the Christmas Story. Notice how wet we all are! This was right after we had walked/run through the rain.

Shawn is very happy with his hat and gloves.

The almost newlyweds showing off their gifts.

Shawn & Melissa gave this blanket to me for watching Awstin on Wednesdays. I LOVE it!!!!! (Plus it is sooo soft!)


Making Gingerbread Houses

Lydia concentrating on cutting open the candy pouch.

Melissa's Gingerbread Man

Julissa's Gingerbread Man

Alexis' Gingerbread House. She pretty much did it herself.

Lydia's house. Kristen helped her some but she did a lot of it.

Mark & Grandpa's. I think Grandpa decorated it and Mark ate the candy!

So ends Christmas 2015. Next up---THE WEDDING!!!! Happy New Year!

Wednesday, December 23, 2015

I Heard the Bells on Christmas Day

I love Christmas carols. If asked to pick my very favorite I would probably choose "Joy to the World." However, one that I have also always loved is "I Heard the Bells on Christmas Day" by Henry Wadsworth Longfellow. There is just something about bells ringing on Christmas Day that paints a beautiful picture in my mind. I imagine a little church with a steeple where the bells are housed. On Christmas Day, a bell ringer pulls the cord and the bells chime back and forth and ring out the good news of Jesus' birth. And of course it is snowing and the landscape is beautiful!

Recently, I came across the story behind this song and it shed a different light on how I view this carol. Henry Longfellow married his wife Frances on July 13, 1843 and they settled in Cambridge, Massachusetts in a house that overlooked the Charles River. Together they had five children, Charles, Ernest, Alice, Edith, and Allegra. The year 1861 was a tragic year--for Henry personally and also for America. The Civil War began in April of that year and the nation was in turmoil.

On July 9, 1861 Frances wrote in her diary, "We are all sighing for the good sea breeze instead of this stifling land one filled with dust. Poor Allegra is very droopy with heat, and Edie has to get her hair in a net to free her neck from the weight." The next day, she decided to trim some of 7 year old Edith's beautiful curls (probably to give her relief from the heat). She decided to preserve the clippings in sealing wax. Melting a bar of sealing wax with a candle, a few drops fell unnoticed upon her dress. The longed for sea breeze gusted through the window, igniting the light material of Fanny's dress--immediately wrapping her in flames. In her attempt to protect Edith and Allegra, she ran to Henry's study in the next room, where Henry frantically attempted to extinguish the flames with a nearby, but undersized throw rug. Failing to stop the fire with the rug, he tried to smother the flames by throwing his arms around Frances--severely burning his face, arms, and hands. Fanny Longfellow died the next morning. Too ill from his burns and grief, Henry did not attend her funeral.

That Christmas (1861) Longfellow wrote, "How inexpressibly sad are all holidays." On the first anniversary of Fanny's death he wrote, "I can make no record of these days. Better leave them wrapped in silence. Perhaps someday God will give me peace." His journal entry for December 25, 1862 reads, "'A merry Christmas' say the children, but that is no more for me."'

His oldest son, Charles, joined the war and was a lieutenant in the Union army. In 1863 he was severely wounded when a bullet passed under his shoulder blades and through his spine. That Christmas there is no entry in Longfellow's journal. Life was very bleak. The war raged and his son fought for his life.

Charles did survive (although was always a cripple) and by Christmas of 1864 the future of the nation seemed a little brighter. Abraham Lincoln had been re-elected and the Union army clearly had the upper hand. On December 25, Henry penned the words to the song we now know as "I Heard the Bells on Christmas Day." He wrote it as a poem and the original title was "Christmas Bells." There are two stanzas that have been omitted through the years because they contain references to the Civil War. It is interesting to read the entire poem/song and see how it reflects on the prior years of the war's despair, and then ends with a confident hope of triumphant peace.

"I heard the bells on Christmas Day
Their old familiar carols play,
And wild and sweet
The words repeat
Of peace on earth, good-will to men!

I thought how, as the day had come,
The belfries of all Christendom
Had rolled along
The unbroken song
Of peace on earth, good-will to men!

Till, ringing, singing on its way,
The world revolved from night to day,
A voice, a chime
A chant sublime
Of peace on earth, good-will to men!

Then from the black accursed mouth
The cannon thundered in the South,
And with the sound
The carols drowned
Of peace on earth, good-will to men!

It was as if an earthquake rent
The heart-stones of a continent,
And made forlorn
The households born
Of peace on earth, good-will to men!

And in despair I bowed my head;
"There is no peace on earth," I said;
"For hate is strong,
And mocks the song
Of peace on earth, good-will to men!"

Then pealed the bells more loud and deep:
"God is not dead; nor doth he sleep!
The Wrong shall fail,
The Right prevail,
With peace on earth, good-will to men!"

I'm pretty sure I will never listen to this song again and picture my beautiful little church on a snowy hillside pealing out a beautiful melody on Christmas Day. Instead, I will remember how the man who wrote this carol suffered terrible personal tragedy and endured the horrors of war and yet still  was able to proclaim, "God is not dead; nor doth he sleep! The Wrong shall fail, The Right prevail, With peace on earth, good-will to men!" Oh how our nation needs that today more than ever.

If this song had not been written on Christmas Day, I doubt if it would have made it as a Christmas carol. Instead of the joyous news of Christ's birth and the celebratory theme that most carols portray, this song is actually kind of depressing as it describes the war and a man in deep despair wondering if there is any hope for himself or the world around him. I love how he is able to put aside his sorrows and write the last stanza which boldly declares that right will triumph over wrong and there will be peace on earth. It is a beautiful picture. Not at all like my original imaginary vision of this song but beautiful nonetheless. This will remain one of my favorite Christmas carols. Knowing the story behind it, makes me appreciate it even more.



Merry Christmas everyone and continue to pray for peace on earth. GOD IS NOT DEAD NOR DOTH HE SLEEP!

Monday, December 21, 2015

Hannah is One!

Today is sweet little Hannah's 1st birthday. Kristen decided not to have a big celebration for her since it is so close to Christmas and Hannah wouldn't know the difference anyway. They are just having a small party with her at home today. Her older siblings were excited for her and couldn't wait to watch her eat her cake and see her get her face all messed up with cake and icing! I'm sure she will have plenty of help to open her presents too!

Yesterday, Steve and I spent the evening with Steve's mom and we invited Jay and Kristen and family to join us for a pizza supper and then we gave Hannah her birthday gift from us. Mom enjoys having the children around and it was a fun evening spent together. Hannah wasn't quite sure what to make of the present. She tore the paper off for a little while and then got tired of it and left it to her siblings who were happy to finish opening it for her!

It is so fun to see Hannah getting around and joining in with the activity around her. For a while, it was hard to really get to know Hannah, because her older siblings would clamor for my attention and Hannah was content to stay with her mom or dad. Lately, Hannah  has been getting a lot more sociable and actually seems to like me a little bit. I have no doubt that it won't be long until she is running in the door with the rest of them, calling hello, giving hugs, and beaming from ear to ear! 

Standing over her present and loving the attention she is getting. "Is this for me?"

Tearing off the first piece. I think she is clueless that there is something in the box for her!

Brother and sister are willing helpers.

Making progress. After this she soon lost interest and wandered off and left her siblings finish opening it. I realized I didn't even take a picture of her present. It was a little shirt and jumper and a toy. 

I wish the lighting would be better on this picture, but was glad to get one at all. Mom really enjoys have the great-grandchildren around. You have to be fast to snap a picture of Hannah though. She doesn't stay in one place very long!

Just a short video clip. I love her shriek of delight at the beginning.

Well, that is the last of the grandchildren's birthdays for the year. I think I blogged and posted pictures for each one. I'm not sure that I will continue to do that next year, but I guess I have a little time to decide since the next grandchild's birthday won't be until May.

Happy birthday Hannah!

Monday, December 7, 2015

Julissa's Bridal Shower

Loved this creative decoration!
On Sunday afternoon, Julissa's bridesmaids hosted a small bridal shower for her. It was not a surprise and Josh joined in the festivities as well. After the events of this past week it was nice to focus on the beginning of life (as in Josh and Julissa starting their lives together) and to enjoy the fun and laughter that accompanies the opening of gifts. It was held in the cafe at S. Clyde Weaver's where Julissa works. It was a very nice setting and it was wonderful to relax and share in the excitement of the upcoming wedding. Julissa is an avid reader so many of the decorations were book related. Apparently before Josh consumed so much of her time, she read close to five books a month! 

Bookmarks for favors

Table Centerpiece

Food Table (not all the food was on yet)

Cupcakes (yum!)

Hot Chocolate with lots of extras J
 
All smiles before they start opening gifts

Alexis and Lydia enjoyed helping with the gifts.


Only a month to the wedding!

Friday, December 4, 2015

Farewell


Farewells are hard. Saying goodbye to someone that has been a part of your life for 35 years is not easy. However, even though today was incredibly sad, it was also good. It was good to see so many people come to support the family last evening and today. It was good to be together and hear stories and remember things about Dad that were so special to people. It was good to see the love that my children and the other grandchildren had for their grandfather. It was good to hear how he touched so many people in so many different ways. It was good to be able to release him to Jesus and know that he is in a better place

Last Friday, Dad sat on his chair humming. It was just mindless humming and he didn't even realize he was doing it. Nancy suggested that he hum an actual song. Suddenly Dad began to sing. He sang, "What a day that will be when my Jesus I shall see, and I look upon His face, the one who saved me by His grace; When He takes me by the hand, and leads me through the Promised Land, what a day glorious day that will be!"

When he got to the phrase, "when He takes me by the hand..." he raised his hand up and reached out as though he was stretching it out to Jesus. It was a very emotional moment for Mom and Nancy and when they shared it with the rest of the family we knew that was the song that we will always associate with Dad. We had it written inside his Memorial Card and last evening after the viewing all the grandchildren and their spouses and some of the great grandchildren sang that song together. It was their farewell gift to a very special man.



Farewell Dad.

Tuesday, December 1, 2015

The Promised Land is Here

This morning at 9:33, Marlin H. Lehman entered the Promised Land. The family was told last evening that it wouldn't be long and this morning at  8:30, the doctor said she thought is would be very soon. Steve was just leaving to go in to the Hospice Center when his sister called him and told him to come as quickly as he could. Of course traffic was terrible and Steve was the last of his siblings to arrive. He walked in the door and his family said, "oh good, Steve is here." He walked over to his dad and said, "Hi Daddy, it's Steve, I'm here." Dad kind of nodded and twitched his mouth a little bit and then Mom kissed him on the cheek and said, "they are all here now." Within minutes he was dead. He died, surrounded by the family that he loved and the family that loved him. It was just how he would have wanted it. Several weeks ago when we were together, Dad looked around the room at all of us and said, "How many people would love to have a family around them with this kind of love and support?" I honestly believe that he died a happy and fulfilled man. I am so fortunate to have been able to call him my father-in-law.

Here is the obituary:

Marlin H. Lehman, 80, of Lititz, died peacefully on Tuesday, December 1, 2015 at Hospice & Community Care, Mount Joy. Born in Maytown, he was the son of the late Daniel and Ada Hossler Lehman. Marlin was the husband of Elsie J. Rohrer Lehman, and they observed their 60th wedding anniversary in June of this year. Marlin was employed for 20 years in the Mechanical Services department of the Horst Group, Lancaster. He was a faithful member of the Millport Mennonite Church, Leola, was active in Mennonite Disaster Service, Lititz, and the Mennonite Central Committee Re-Uzit Shop of Ephrata. He enjoyed spending time with family, hunting, and fishing.

Surviving in addition to his wife Elsie are three sons, Robert, husband of Julia Lehman, Harrisonville. Steve, husband of Mary Lehman, Holtwood, Dan, husband of Krista Lehman, Lancaster, two daughters, Doris, wife of Mark Kauffman of Woodward, and Nancy, wife of Melvin Allgyer, Jr., of Harrisburg: 20 grandchildren, and 28 great grandchildren. Marlin is also survived by brothers, Harold, husband of Bonnie Lehman of Bluffton, OH, John, husband of Elizabeth Lehman of Harrison Valley, Leroy, husband of Nancy Lehman of Penryn; sisters, Verna, wife of Chester Habecker, Lititz, and Betty, wife of Richard Gerlach of Manheim. He was preceded in death by a sister, Mildren Pott and brothers, Stanley, Herman, and Kenneth Lehman.

Relatives and friends are respectfully invited to attend Marlin's funeral service at the Millport Mennonite Church, 820 Log Cabin Road, Leola, PA 17540 on Friday, December 4, 2015 at 10:00 AM. There will be a viewing at the church on Thursday evening, December 3, from 5:00 to 8:00 PM, and from 9:00 AM until the time of the service on Friday. Interment will be in Millport Mennonite Cemetery. In lieu of flowers, contributions in Marlin's memory may be sent to Mennonite Disaster Service, 583 Airport Road, Lititz, PA 17543. To send the family on-line condolences, please visit:

BuchFuneral.com



Monday, November 30, 2015

The Promised Land is Very Near

This day is getting very near for my father-in-law

What a day that will be,
When my Jesus I shall see,
When I look upon His face,
The one who saved me by His grace,
When He takes me by the hand,
And leads me through the promised land,
What a day, Glorious Day that will be.

I love how songs speak to me during difficult times. What Dad will soon see is so much better than what we have here on earth. But oh I will miss that man. Fly away Dad to your place in the promised land. Thanks for the memories. I am so fortunate to have known you.

Saturday, November 28, 2015

Sometimes a Pictureless Memory is Worth More Than a Thousand Words

There are some things that are etched into your memory that you will never forget. In this day and age we are always snapping pictures to capture "the moment" and I am as guilty of doing that as the next person. But sometimes it is just good to put away the camera and capture the memory in your heart.

One of the memories that I have of my mom is several weeks before she died. Steve and I were at Landis Homes visiting her on a Sunday afternoon. We usually took her to the cafe at the Home for supper but she said she was really hungry for a hot dog and that was something they never served there so she hadn't had one for a long time. At first Steve and I were just going to pass it off and say she would just have to do without one and then we kind of looked at each other and said, "well, why don't we try to get her one." We loaded her into our car and drove to a nearby Sonic where we purchased her a hot dog and she happily ate it. It was sort of an inconvenience but it meant so much to her that we were glad we made the effort to find her one. Four days later she was suddenly no longer able to swallow and keep food down and in a few short weeks she died. I cannot tell you how many times since then Steve and I have mentioned how thankful we were that we took Mom out for a hot dog that day. No, I don't have a picture of her eating the hot dog, but I sure will never forget that memory.

On Thanksgiving Day, because Steve's dad's health has been declining, we decided to take the meal to their house. Over the years, I have often had Steve's mom and dad at my house on Thanksgiving Day as Steve's siblings had family gatherings with their spouse's family. When my dad was alive, he would join us too. I would also invite any of my children who didn't have other plans as well, and normally some of them came, but usually not all. This year, when I mentioned to my children that I was making the meal and taking it to eat at Grandpa and Grandma's house, they all said that they would come as well. Some had other gatherings at noon but all felt it was important to come for supper.

I left Mom make the turkey  (I knew she would want to do something) with instructions that we would get there early to carve it. Kristen made the desserts (huge help for me!) and I made everything else. I spent most of Thanksgiving morning making food and then we packed it up and drove to Mom & Dad's.

Dad was weak and using his oxygen most of the time. When it was time to eat, we helped him to the head of the table and Steve asked if he wanted to say the prayer. We all bowed our heads and Dad thanked the Lord for all our blessings and family and food among other things. I wondered if this was the last time I would hear him leading the prayer before a meal. The food was passed and everyone ate more than they needed to. It was rewarding to see Dad fill his plate and eat it all and then take seconds as well.

After the meal, we helped him to his chair and he put his oxygen on again. When the dishes had been washed we all gathered in the living room around Mom and Dad. I gave them each a bag with the words on "I'm thankful for Grandpa because.... and "I'm thankful for Grandma because..." Inside were strips of  paper on which each of us had written down something that we were thankful especially for them. They took turns pulling the papers out of their bag and reading them out loud. After they read one they had to guess who had written it. Some were easy like, "I'm thankful that you introduced me to Julissa," and some were more difficult for them to guess, "I'm thankful that you love me" (Alexis).

I did not pull my camera out to take a picture, but I didn't need to. Sitting there and watching them pull those papers out of their bags and reading them and looking around the room and trying to guess who wrote it, will always be a picture in my mind and I believe in my children's as well. As the slogan goes, "it was priceless."

The next day, Dad was much worse. As I write this, I don't know if that may have been the last time that he will have been able to really enjoy our presence. Maybe there will be more times and maybe their won't. However, I'm pretty sure (barring a miracle) that he will not be with us for another Thanksgiving Day. I know that I will always look back on that day with thankfulness that we went the extra mile and took the meal to their house and that Steve and I and our children and grandchildren got to spend that special day with them. No picture needed.

Tuesday, November 24, 2015

Thankful Jar

In less than 48 hours it will be Thanksgiving Day. We are looking forward to spending a good part of the day with Steve's parents and our children and grandchildren. Steve's dad is still doing fairly well, but we thought it would be easier to take the Thanksgiving meal to them at their house rather than have them travel to our place like they have often done for previous Thanksgivings. We will enjoy a special day with family and as with any time when we get together with Steve's dad it will be in the the back of our minds as to whether this is the last time we get to celebrate an occasion like this with him present. We continue to take one day at a time and appreciate every moment that he still feels well enough to join in the festivities. 

As I've shared before on this blog,

{Excerpt from Blog-December 2, 2013...Well, here we are at the busy time between Thanksgiving and Christmas. I usually never feel settled at this time of year for a number of reasons. Although I absolutely love Christmas music and beautiful lights and the significance of Jesus' birth, I always have the feeling that there is something that I need to do, and someplace that I need to go, and something that I need to buy, and that somehow I never quite do the whole Christmas season as well as everyone else does. I suppose it is just too much looking at what everyone else is doing, how beautifully they are decorating, and how many dozens of Christmas cookies that they made etc, that makes me feel inadequate and think that I don't do this time of the year justice, and that my poor family suffers because of it...}

sometimes I let the pressures and demands of this season of the year overwhelm me. Right now, there are some things in my life that feel worrisome and I can let myself be consumed with anxiety as I wonder how everything will work out. Add that to the typical stress I feel over the holiday season and I can easily become depressed and lethargic. However, on the bright side, there is also a lot of good things going on in my life and it is on those that I want to put my focus on the next month. I have decided to make a "Thankful Jar" for this season. Each day, starting Thanksgiving Day and ending on Christmas Day, I am going to write on a piece of paper something specific that happened that day for which I am thankful and put it into the jar. 

I am actually really looking forward to this activity. I think it will help with my overall outlook on life and maybe it will open my eyes as to how much I really have to be thankful for. Hopefully there will be days when it will be hard to select one thing because there are numerous ones I could choose from. On Christmas Day, I am going to open my jar and read through them all. That will be my Christmas present to myself!

Anyone want to join me? Steve? J

Monday, November 9, 2015

ALL RISE!!

**Sorry for the length of this post. I guess I got a little carried away with my story telling.**

In March of this year, I got a notice in the mail that I needed to report for 3 days of federal jury duty in Philadelphia the end of April. In all my 55 years, I have never, ever been called for jury duty. I wouldn't have minded going to the Lancaster County Courthouse but I wanted no part of traveling to Philadelphia. However, this order is not something that you ignore, so I dutifully lined up a motel (I would be reimbursed for lodging since I lived more than 55 miles away from the courthouse), and resigned myself to the fact. I was scheduled to begin my service on a Monday and when I called on the Friday before to receive final instructions, I was told that I would NOT need to report this time, but  would be called again within the year. I was ecstatic! Surely I had escaped and hopefully that was just something they said and I would never hear from them again.

Unfortunately, true to their word, I received another official letter the beginning of September which stated that I was to report for jury duty Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday, October 28, 29, and 30. I again lined up my motel and hoped desperately that I would not have to actually go.  On Tuesday evening, October 27, I called the number to listen to the recording that would tell me if I needed to report. I was number 108 and the recording informed me that only numbers 0 through 64 needed to show up at the courthouse on Wednesday, October 28. Numbers 65 through 300 would need to call again the following evening to get their instructions for Thursday. I was cautiously optimistic. Hopefully there was a low number of cases on the agenda and I would again escape actually having to serve. However, when I called the next evening, the monotone voice informed me that numbers 65 though 224 needed to be present for jury duty the next day.

I hurriedly threw clothes in a suitcase and Steve was kind enough to drive me to Philadelphia to the motel. He stayed overnight and then left early Thursday morning to go back home. My motel was within walking distance of the courthouse so a little after 8:00 in the morning I walked the four blocks to the James A Byrne Federal Courthouse. After going through security I arrived at the the large jury waiting room and sat with the other prospective jurors.

It was a long day. One thing we all learned is that when the clerk tells you that he will return in fifteen minutes, count on it being at least an hour and a half. In the morning they called the names of 40 people to be dismissed to a courtroom for jury selection in a criminal case and in the afternoon  24 others were called for selection in a civil case. Each time, I breathed a sigh of relief when my name was not called. If I could just make it through the day, hopefully they would dismiss us and not make any of us come back on Friday. Those that were called but not actually chosen to sit on the jury in either of the above two cases, eventually returned again to the waiting room. We all waited anxiously for the clerk to come back and give us the next day's instructions. Finally, about 3:45, he returned and told us that there would be no more jury selection today so we were dismissed BUT all of us had to come back tomorrow. You should have heard the moaning and groaning. A young girl, Brittany (not her actual name), who was sitting in the row behind me was so angry. She sputtered that she would not be back tomorrow because she couldn't afford to miss any more work. Some of us around her kind of smiled, because even if you say you are not going to return, everyone knows that you actually will. Believe me, there were a lot of people leaving that room that did not want to return the next day.

I spent a relaxing evening in my motel room. I did go for a walk and found where I could get the El train that would take me to the 30th Street Train Station so I could get the train home Friday evening. I was hoping I would be finished with my jury duty by early afternoon and be home in time for dinner.

I and my fellow prospective jurors arrived back at the courthouse on Friday morning at 8:30 sharp just as we had been instructed. At 9:15, the clerk came in and took attendance. He called out everyone's name and all answered that they were present except for one. Brittany was not there. Those of us who had been sitting close to her were surprised. Even though none of us wanted to be there, we would have never had the brazenness to just not return. She was only twenty-three years old and I guess saying no to the United States District Court didn't faze her.

The clerk assured us that he would return within 15 minutes to call another jury. One hour and 15 minutes later he was back. He informed us that 24 prospective jurors would be called from which the Court would be choosing 8 to serve on a civil trial. He began calling names and the 4th one was Brittany! After being told that she wasn't there, he muttered around and passed her name off to the other clerk that was helping him. (I really wonder what, if any, her punishment will be). I held my breath as he continued. "Number 13, - Mary Lehman." With a sigh, I took my place on chair number 13 (well actually 12, because Brittany wasn't there and they didn't replace her.)

The twenty-three of us were ushered up to the 9th floor and into a courtroom. As we filed in, the attorneys and their clients who were already seated, stared at us. We sat down on the first two rows of seats in the gallery. I was the last one on the first row.  Suddenly the clerk called out loudly, "All rise!" We and the attorneys and their clients scrambled to our feet and in swished the Honorable Mark Kearney in his black robe. The judge took his place, smiled at us and told us to be seated. He told us a little about the case and that they expected the trial to last until Wednesday of the following week! I thought, "oh no! Please don't choose me!"

The judge then asked all of us some general questions, to which we were to hold our number up if the answer was yes. He started out with asking if any of us knew the attorneys, the plaintiff or defendant or if we had ever heard of the two companies they were representing. He continued to ask some more questions and I only put my number up once when he asked if any of us or our spouse owned a business. After that he called a few of us up privately to ask some more questions with him and the two attorneys present. My number was called and I was asked exactly what kind of business we operated. When I responded with "composting" they wondered what we composted. I answered as best I could all the while hoping desperately that being involved in a business would get me dismissed from being chosen.

The attorneys passed notes back and forth and within 15 minutes, the clerk announced that the jury was selected. She would call out 8 numbers and if your number was called you were to rise and walk to the jury box. She called in order, so I listened while 4 numbers ahead of me were called. "1, 4, 9, 12." I was thinking, "please, please don't say 13." "Thirteen!" she said. Reluctantly, I got up and seated myself in the jury box. Three more numbers were called and then those that hadn't been chosen were dismissed to go back to the jury waiting room. I watched longingly as they filed out the door.

The judge then looked at the eight of us and said something like this, "I know probably none of you want to be here, but jurors are a very important part of our judicial system and without you the trial cannot go forward. Thank you for your service to this Court." After some further comments and instructions the trial began and the attorneys made their opening statements.

When we were finally given a lunch break, five of us went to the Subway across the street and got to know each other a little bit. One of  the questions we asked each other was where we were from. When I responded, "Lancaster County," one woman looked at me and said, "me too! I'm from Millersville!" That was pretty amazing that two of us lived so close to each other. I will call her Annie but that is not her actual name. I found out that Annie had brought the train to Philly and was planning to return home on it that evening. We made plans to travel together. Although I had not purchased my ticket yet, I figured that I would have time to do that when we got to the station. We were hoping to make the 5:35 train.

After a long afternoon listening to testimony, we were finally dismissed at 4:45 for the weekend, with instructions to return on Monday at 9:00 and not to discuss the case with anyone or look up any of the parties on the Internet. I told Annie that there was no way I could make the 5:35 train because I still had to go back to my motel and check out and that she should just go on without me. I would catch the next train which left about an hour and a half later. However, she insisted that she didn't mind and that she would just tag along back to the motel with me so we could stay together. She thought if we hurry there was a slight chance we might still make the train. We dashed back to the motel where I checked out and made reservations for the following week.

I had assumed that we would get the El train to the 30th Street station, but when I mentioned this to Annie, she said that she never takes a subway or bus but prefers to use a taxi. Since we could get a taxi right from the motel, I thought it might be faster and agreed. Wrong! Taking a taxi through Philadelphia between 5:00 and 5:30 on a Friday afternoon is not a fast way to get through town. As we got into the back of the taxi I made the remark that I couldn't remember ever being in a taxi before. Annie looked at me incredulously like I must have just arrived from Mars, but then she commented that she didn't think she had ever been on a bus or subway so I guess we were just from two different walks of life.

As we sat stuck in traffic, we realized that it was very unlikely that we would make the train. We mentioned this out loud and the taxi driver heard us. He tried to speed up and dart in and out of traffic but there was only so much he could do. I texted Steve, "not going to make the 5:35 train. Will have to wait for the next one." I told Annie that even if we did make it to the station before the train left, I still had to purchase my ticket. She suggested that I do that right there in the back of the taxi. Now, I am fairly proficient with my Smart Phone but buying a train ticket in the back of a taxi on the way to the train station was a little out of my comfort zone. I am much better with a big screen. However, since it appeared to be the best option I decided to try it. Finding the correct train, typing in my name, address, email and cell phone number along with my credit card information was challenging and it probably took me ten minutes with Annie looking on and helping me but eventually I persevered and the sale went through. By this time it was 5:25 and we were still not at the station and the driver was still trying to navigate through the traffic. Finally at 5:31, the driver crossed over the last line of traffic and got close to the station. There were many cars and taxis picking up and dropping off so we really weren't in front of the station yet but Annie and I told the driver that this was fine and we would just get out here. We paid him and I grabbed my suitcase from the trunk and started to follow Annie as we rushed toward the building. Unfortunately, I had packed in a large suitcase and as I pulled it behind me I couldn't keep up with Annie. She saw my dilemma and offered to take my suitcase (she was younger than me). I gladly handed it over to her. We barreled into the building, looked at the big screen to see what track our train was on and ran (well, walked quickly) over to the escalator that would take us down to the track. The man said we could still make it if we hurried (what did he think we had been doing!). We were the last ones to enter the train and it was packed! We walked through several cars before we found one seat that I sank into and further along that same train car Annie found one. I'm pretty sure she wasn't even sitting when the train started moving. Thankfully I texted Steve, "WE MADE THE TRAIN!"

Sunday evening, Steve took me back to my motel. In the morning he went home and I walked again to the courthouse where I spent the day listening to testimony. One interesting thing I learned that I don't think I knew before was that everyone in the courtroom stands when the jury enters. I always knew that you stand when a judge comes into the room but I didn't know the same thing applied to jurors. Before we entered or reentered the courtroom we would line up. When we were ready, the clerk would open the door and yell, "ALL RISE!" Everyone (including the judge who was already seated) would stand while we filed in. The first time we came in after a break, most of us walked to our seat and sat down right away. Then the judge said, "you may be seated." We realized that we were to stay standing until the judge seated us. By the end of our jury duty we were pros at lining up and walking in. But it was still always a little funny to have everyone stand as we walked to the jury box.

At the end of the day on Monday, the judge informed us that the trial was moving along a little faster than they had anticipated and we should expect to begin deliberations by noon on Tuesday.  Hoping that we would be able to reach a verdict by late afternoon, I purchased myself a ticket for the 6:45 train home on Tuesday evening. (Annie's husband was with her and they were planning to stay until Wednesday so I wouldn't be traveling home with her.)

We did indeed begin deliberations around noon on Tuesday, but it soon became apparent that it was not going to be a quick verdict. I'm not going to stay much about the trial (that would have to be a whole other blog because this one is waaay too long already) except that it was a small company suing a big company for a breach of contract. While I am all for protecting the little guy, it was quite apparent that both sides had a lot of issues. We were miles apart on the jury when it came to reaching a unanimous decision. Some thought the little company should receive as much as they could possibly get and others thought a much lower number would be adequate compensation. Neither side had any intention of budging. The hours crept along and at 5:45 I realized that I probably wasn't going to make it home that evening. Apparently everyone else began to understand that too, and slowly both sides began to give a little. In the end we were able to come to a unanimous decision and reached a verdict.

Afterward the judge came and talked to us for another half hour or so. I will just mention that the judge was really nice. He was 53 years old and had just been seated as a federal judge in January. Did you know that the President of the United States is actually the one who calls and asks you to consider accepting the position of a federal judge? Judge Kearney said that "when you answer the phone and it is the President of the United States on the other end," you pay attention. He went out of his way to answer our questions and thank us for serving on the jury.

By the time I got back to my motel, it was 7:00 and too late for me to make the 6:45 train. I was tired and mentally fried and wasn't sure if I wanted to stay in Philadelphia another night or catch a later train. I really wanted to go home but didn't think I had the energy to navigate the unfamiliar El train to 30th Street. Then I remembered the taxi! Even though it cost a little bit more, it was much more relaxing to sit in the back of a taxi and be driven to the entrance of the train station and dropped off. So, after having never ridden in a taxi in my life, within four days I rode in one twice! I changed my train ticket and had plenty of time before boarding the 8:15 train to Lancaster. Steve met me at the station and I was very happy to return to Mt. Nebo and the life I am accustomed to.

I would not say that I enjoyed serving on a jury but I will admit that there were parts of it that were very interesting. I will not be disappointed if I am never called to be on one again, but I suppose I can look back on it and view it as an educational and enlightening experience.

A few days ago, I received a letter from the Honorable Mark Kearney thanking me again for conscientiously and willingly fulfilling the promise of "our framers who originated this jury system across the street from the Courthouse over two hundred and twenty-five years ago."


You are welcome, Judge Kearney.

Thursday, October 29, 2015

Happy 3rd Birthday Mark!

Today is Mark's 3rd birthday! I sure can't imagine life without his beautiful smile and sparkling brown, mischievous eyes. Mark is all boy and I love to see him play with his little equipment and pretend that he is farming. He is energy plus and seems to enjoy each moment to the fullest. It's hard not to smile and be happy when he is around, because how can you be sad when he exuberates such joy for life. 

It is fun to watch his little mind work and to listen to him talk. He doesn't miss anything that is going on around him. Surrounded by three sisters he definitely knows that he is the boy. The other day when I was getting him a drink and poured it into a pink cup, he informed me that he wanted a boy cup. The pink one was for girls! 

He was so looking forward to his birthday. He watched his two older sisters celebrate their birthdays this year and kept asking when it would be his turn. Kristen promised that his time would come. When Steve & I and his other grandparents arrived for the big event, he met us with a huge smile and ran circles around the room as he tried to contain his excitement. After we all enjoyed a meal together, the much anticipated cake was brought out to him. There was no doubt that the cake met all his expectations.

The cake :)

Grandpa Mark smiles while Mark takes a big bite.

Opening the presents.


I was behind Mark when the cake was brought out so the video doesn't show his face very well, but you can still see that he was pretty happy.



I love that we get to share these happy times together with our grandchildren.

Wednesday, October 21, 2015

These Boys

I am loving having both of the grandsons today. While they each grab a nap, I'll post a couple pictures.
 
Mark spent the night and he was so pleased to be here all by himself. He got to ride along with Grandpa in the skid loader to pick up bales. He especially liked the "ramp" that they made. (I'm not really sure what that was, but he was happy about it.) When I asked him where he wanted to sleep, he said "with you Grandma." Steve asked him where Grandpa was supposed to sleep. Mark responded, "with Grandma. I can sleep in the middle!" We both got a big laugh out of that.
 
Today is an absolutely perfect fall day. We were able to be outside all morning. The boys enjoyed several barrel train rides, plenty of tricycle riding, swinging, playing in the park, and watching Grandpa inject manure in the field. We also went to Megan and Jeremy's house and watched the trains and threw ball in their basement. It's no wonder they are both worn out and sleeping soundly.


Mark all snuggled in to watch a video before bedtime.


Megan fuels up the tractor while the boys watch Grandpa injecting manure.

You can't sit on the park swing without singing. Here's one of our songs this morning.
 
Maybe I'll go get some rest myself before these two boys wake up ready to go again!

Tuesday, October 20, 2015

And Then There Were Seventy

The Originals
I've noticed that since Dad has been diagnosed with cancer, many family members have been stopping by their house to visit and also take a few pictures. Everyone wants to make sure they get a picture of themselves and/or their children with Dad. In a previous post, I shared how Steve wanted a four generation picture. The oldest grandson, David, made it a point to get a picture of himself, Dad, and the truck that he now owns which was previously Dad's. I think it is normal when you realize that someone you love might not be on this earth very long, to want to get that last picture keepsake. I also think it shows how much you love and appreciate them because you want this memory not only for yourself but to pass on down to your children.

We have been fortunate that Dad is feeling good. He has no pain and he loves when friends and family stop by to chat with him. On Sunday his children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren got together to celebrate with him and Mom. What sixty years ago started with two people has now expanded to over seventy. Plenty of memories were shared and you could tell that Dad appreciated it so much. It was very special to see him smiling and laughing and enjoying every minute of it.

Of course the cameras were brought out to preserve the memory. It wasn't too bad getting pictures of Mom and Dad, the siblings, and the grandchildren. However, when we tried to get all the great-grandchildren in one picture that was a different story. I'm not sure if we ever did get them all. One little girl was nowhere to be found and by the time her daddy located her, a few little ones had had enough and were howling, and their parents took pity on them and rescued them from the group. It was a lot of fun though and even if the children didn't enjoy the picture taking, we adults got a good laugh out of it. We tried to distract them with some singing which was an excellent idea and partly worked. I have a short video at the end and it is really cute. It gives you a pretty good picture of what it was like.


Children and Spouses



Grandchildren


Grandchildren and Spouses


Great-Grandchildren





 Enjoy!